Don’t get me wrong. I am still (at the core) think at every newly wed should have created something as a memento for such a huge day.
After watching the photos taken during the ROM, I realized that I could actually trade the hefty amount for the wedding photo shoot package for something more worthy.
Many have asked me “How was your Marriage Life? ” In my mind, actually nothing much changes, or maybe (As a Chinese) I have to wait until Chinese New Year to experience what it’s to be a new member of Tan’s (my hubby) family.
So far, other than receiving the pleasure of people calling me “Mrs Tan” or Madam Kok, the biggest change is the way of I managing my financial account’s/cash flow, etc.
(Wonder why it links with photoshoot? Read On)
After our ROM, we shift our focus to managing our new house:
- Planning budget for renovation & furniture.
- Drawing a floor plan on where to locate the light point, fan point, ac point, socket point.
- Deciding which furniture to be place in which position in our house
- Deciding which furniture to buy
- Visiting IKea, Showroom to get ideas that meet our needs.
(As a young working adult,)After seeing the budget , I could only then realise I spent it in the wrong way. The biggest change after marriage life (and having to pay for housing monthly installment), is to make sure everything I spent worth the penny or worth my liking.
The hefty amount that we have signed up could actually be traded into something much more worthy, for instance:
- Purchase iMac Pro
- Purchase a professional DSLR (camera)
- Purchase a 65″ samsung flat smart TV (which I need the most)
- Add on 5 tables in a wedding banquet
- Secure 2 months of housing installment.
The list could go and go, like seriously so many things can be bought with the amount. I just want to make sure everything I spend is what really necessary.
Now, why do I regret on signing up for a wedding photoshoot?
Don’t get me wrong, it worth my liking, but I could have spent in on something that leave longer lasting effect!
- Wedding photoshoot as beautiful as it is, what are you going to do with the photos after it is being printed out and placed delicately in photo album?
- Show it to people during the wedding reception for a few nights, and keep it drawer forever.
- Post it on social medias like Facebook & Instagram, earn many many likes, then flushed over by many other posts.
Obviously, comparing to purchasing smart TV or camera, these gadgets would allow me to take endless beautiful, high definiton photos with sharp focus, and browsing youtube on a bigger screen
Yet, we need to keep something as a memento for our wedding. Hence, I am not saying that we don’t need to have a wedding photoshoot.
As an avid bride (LOL), you can see part of it by looking at the URL of my blog (preweddingfantasy) and the rest of other posts here in this blog, I have longed for a perfect, immaculate wedding. How could I miss the beautiful part of photoshooting? No way!
After the watching the photos of the ROM, I realised that I long for a perfect wedding to the extent I know the minute details of what I wanted. I would even enjoy going through all these “trouble” (pleasure) by myself.
Photos taken might not be up to professional standard, super sharp focus in object, high contrast , great angle….etc. But, what I really want is decent photos that document our ROM moment, with each of the photo tells the story and exudes the feeling at the moment.
My brother was the photographer for our ROM on that day. Don’t you think he did a good job on that. I am delighted to see those photos! I mean I could actually DIY my own wedding photoshoot!
The only thing I do not know is the trouble to source for a proper and decent wedding dress, and groom’s attire for him, and the make-up and hairstyling on that day. Hmmm, but as I see, it’s not a big deal , and I am willing to go miles to source for the right attire , knowing that i can save on such a hefty amount.
Anyway, I have signed up, and there is no need to mourn at it. (But it’s still important as part of reflection ). And the main reason I penned (keyboarded) this down is to share my experience to all the newly wed or couples who plan to get marry soon. Watch below to a few of my advice
Plan your budget wisely
Plan your budget as details as you can picture it. For instance, where to have photshoot? WIthin selangor, negeri sembilan area or Sepang , Kuala Selangor or Taman Perdana? Or just inside studio? or oversea?
Then how many attire you need?
MOst of them do not include Ampoule that can secure the bride’s make up throughout the day.
Make sure everything is written clearly on the receipt, like 5 lace dress, 3 designer dresses. Depend on the bridal shop, for my case, lace dress would need to top up money cause need to take care during the laundry.
If you like to have props, what is the theme you want? You want to rent the props or DIY?
I’ve heard a story about a man took up loan to have his wife dreamy wedding, and 10 years past, they are still paying for the marriage loan. What’s your opinion on this? No one should ever borrow loan just to celebrate marriage. We can still delay our reception to save up money what.
2. Set a budget for your marriage.
Do not ever go overboard if your budget. Then in this way, even when you visit a wedding fair, even when you got so hype up, even when every booth is basically offering you FREE accessories, FREE ADD-ONs and so on, you won’t be blind with multiple choices available but instead go for what you’re looking for.
3. Do not sign up during your first visit to the wedding fair.
There are mostly 3 or 4 wedding fair in a year. The purpose of the visit is to get the direction/ rough cost of your photoshoot, reception, location and many2 more. Then go home and think carefully, if what you really want exceed your budget, how you are you going to offset it? Postpone, or opt of the cheaper package?
4. Never ever pay lump sum until you are at the end of the servicing point.
It’s a rule of thumb. Nevertheless, I still wish to highlight it here. Just because you like the marketing people/sales lady who pursuit you, promising you whatever you need, but you might not know it is the other people who service you in the studio. You might ended up feeling so unfair because of the service given. (Though every details our package has been clearly stated in our receipt, but still do not ever pay lump sum especially when your will have your photoshoot in 3-6 more months).
In the case if you really not happy with the service given, you can still choose not to pay them in full amount when it really doesn’t justify what it was as mentioned in the packaged signed.
and I think the reason when marketing personnel asking for lump sum , they can get higher commission too.
Having to said this , I still love the sales lady who lured us to sign up , She is too experienced to know what we really want. She is pushy at the core, but she really know how to sweet mouth and attempt to our needs. I do not hate her or what, I would say we are rather impulsive before spending what is needed. What to do, I only got married once in a lifetime, LOL
Haiz…so lesson learnt, never ever got so hyped up even it’s your wedding. Stick strictly onto your budget! In my case, I know I could just DIY for myself. Anyway, you can visit my ROM photoshoot here. and see how I DIY my bridal bouquet here.