I found a new reason to love my lao gong. He is very good in his bargaining skill! Initially, our package includes only 48 photos (which will be printed in album and softcopies of them). As you know, I would like to take and keep as many beautiful photos as a momento as possible.
So we decide that we should get all the softcopies. With the package available, we manage to get a better deal compare with 50% off on the Black Friday Sales too! Initially, my idea is to stick to the old package , which is only 48 pieces soft copy photos, means we will settle for the less, since we didn’t allocate must budget to photo shooting too. My hubby knows that I actually prefer to keep as many soft copies as possible.
So, I am a bit delighted and thankful when he makes his best effort to seal the best deal for the sake of soft copies and additional quality (one more day in shooting, meaning instead of one day or 10 hours in shooting, we have 2 days or 20 hours in shooting! Double the time means more pretty photos too! I bet it will, coz I love taking photos and being taken too.)
We were considered lucky, as I didn’t forget the part of Soft Copy while signing up for the package in March 2018. We made a deal that if we take the soft copy, along with extra one more day shoot, it would be additional Rm 1812 instead of surcharge Rm 1250 for the all softcopy 50% Black Friday Sales. (Meaning the 1 more day photoshoot is Rm 562)
Now, coming to this point, I not sure if you think my hubby is good in bargaining skill, but I still think that he is full of charm while working out the strategies to make the most worthy deal.
Our sales attendant, an experienced mid-aged lady, Wendy is also good in negotiation skill. She won’t reduce the price for us, but as a compensation, she offered us other things/add-on that we want too.
It’s funny to see both of them negotiate. LOL, I know I should side to my hubby side, which I did. I morally supported him as I am not as good as him when it comes to bargaining skill, LOL.
Again, my hubby is full of charm when he bargained. He gives me the feeling that he would be a very successful businessmen/sales man in the future. He knows which is the priority, thinking from marco and micro point of view in terms of bargaining.
So in the end, we manage to get
Rm 88 off from our upgraded package.
One more lace dress (choosing Lace dress would incur additional Rm 150 due to the lace laundry fee.)
One more Bride’s full set attire on the actual day.
Tips on how to get more nice photos
Be punctual – if you late for the make up, all the following agenda would be delayed too.
Admit it, some time the look if not nice, because we don’t see variety in the pose. So must learn how to pose for photos, so that you will be looking natural, not pretentious, and the outcome turns out better.
Now, reflecting back to the situation that time, it might not be as super great deal as what I’ve 2. imagined. (The one more day shooting is Rm 562, sounds expensive, but I would not give in quality to anything, one more day shooting, as compared to additional 2 or 3 hours, squeezed at the end of the day is better, as I can post more, and more time to slowly dress up and make up. I would prefer not to rush when it comes to my favourite thing LOL. )
Having to said this, what is my next step now?
Get a toned body, so that I will look nice in the photo
I even follow these workout routine to get a lean and toned, attractive body figure.
#1 The struggle of having the Chinese Wedding Banquet
4th Dec 2018
It took me the whole night to think about whether to have a Chinese Wedding banquet or not. Throughout the thinking , and re-thinking process, I did find a lot of people, and having discussion with my mom and my hubby to.
My main concern of having a Chinese Wedding Banquet is whether does it really worth my hard earn money. Right now, on the way of prepping for the actual day, Only then I realise and experience the struggle, the financial struggle.
I guess that’s the main reason some young couples nowadays decided not to have an elaborated wedding feast, and wedding reception. I guess only through experiencing it, you get to know what is the struggle of going through the progress.
As a working adult, trying to achieve whatever I plan. I learn along the way, I need to be responsible for whatever decision I’ve made. Despite I can work hard to cover the wedding budget/expenses, the key point is whether does it really worth my hard earned money. I earn so hard to realising my dream, then a wedding banquet, reception that can make us spent money like water.
Thinking from my friend point of view, I also think that is it that people whom I care really want to make it to my banquet? I mean, I have this feeling that sometime I just don’t want to receive red bomb from people who I am not really close with, haha.
And I also need to take care of the feeling of my parents, parents-in-law, then I also realise we really need to make a lot of decision, priortise and sacrifice some matter.
My another dilemma is some of my friends/relative also keep on asking me, when I will pass my red bomb to them….hmmmm. Actually, I have the gush to post in FB, asking who really want to receive my red bomb.
Also, since I am now in the progress of preparing, I am so sensitive to everything about wedding.For example, I went to pump car fuel and saw a wed mag, I will take a second look at it, and decided whether to buy it or not. But I decided it just didn’t worth my time to read the magazine. The more you read, the more I feel lost, hence….at this particular point of time, I’ve learnt how to priorities matter and be responsible of the decision I made.
8th December 2018
I thank myself for having a diary like this to document the every little milestone that we achieve together. I got the idea of getting this name plate so that I can use it for our photoshoots and to be put in our new home too! Can’t wait to see the outcome!
It was a rather impromptu decision. Saw the watch was on sale, it was so worthy so we bought it. I always want to play matchy with my hubby. Everything comes in a pair. A pair of sneakers, jackets, and even watches!
I even created a hashtag for to commemorate the moment of both of us #wsXmaple
Don’t get me wrong. I am still (at the core) think at every newly wed should have created something as a memento for such a huge day.
After watching the photos taken during the ROM, I realized that I could actually trade the hefty amount for the wedding photo shoot package for something more worthy.
Many have asked me “How was your Marriage Life? ” In my mind, actually nothing much changes, or maybe (As a Chinese) I have to wait until Chinese New Year to experience what it’s to be a new member of Tan’s (my hubby) family.
So far, other than receiving the pleasure of people calling me “Mrs Tan” or Madam Kok, the biggest change is the way of I managing my financial account’s/cash flow, etc.
(Wonder why it links with photoshoot? Read On)
After our ROM, we shift our focus to managing our new house:
Planning budget for renovation & furniture.
Drawing a floor plan on where to locate the light point, fan point, ac point, socket point.
Deciding which furniture to be place in which position in our house
Deciding which furniture to buy
Visiting IKea, Showroom to get ideas that meet our needs.
(As a young working adult,)After seeing the budget , I could only then realise I spent it in the wrong way. The biggest change after marriage life (and having to pay for housing monthly installment), is to make sure everything I spent worth the penny or worth my liking.
The hefty amount that we have signed up could actually be traded into something much more worthy, for instance:
Purchase iMac Pro
Purchase a professional DSLR (camera)
Purchase a 65″ samsung flat smart TV (which I need the most)
Add on 5 tables in a wedding banquet
Secure 2 months of housing installment.
The list could go and go, like seriously so many things can be bought with the amount. I just want to make sure everything I spend is what really necessary.
Now, why do I regret on signing up for a wedding photoshoot?
Don’t get me wrong, it worth my liking, but I could have spent in on something that leave longer lasting effect!
Wedding photoshoot as beautiful as it is, what are you going to do with the photos after it is being printed out and placed delicately in photo album?
Show it to people during the wedding reception for a few nights, and keep it drawer forever.
Post it on social medias like Facebook & Instagram, earn many many likes, then flushed over by many other posts.
Obviously, comparing to purchasing smart TV or camera, these gadgets would allow me to take endless beautiful, high definiton photos with sharp focus, and browsing youtube on a bigger screen
Yet, we need to keep something as a memento for our wedding. Hence, I am not saying that we don’t need to have a wedding photoshoot.
As an avid bride (LOL), you can see part of it by looking at the URL of my blog (preweddingfantasy) and the rest of other posts here in this blog, I have longed for a perfect, immaculate wedding. How could I miss the beautiful part of photoshooting? No way!
After the watching the photos of the ROM, I realised that I long for a perfect wedding to the extent I know the minute details of what I wanted. I would even enjoy going through all these “trouble” (pleasure) by myself.
Photos taken might not be up to professional standard, super sharp focus in object, high contrast , great angle….etc. But, what I really want is decent photos that document our ROM moment, with each of the photo tells the story and exudes the feeling at the moment.
My brother was the photographer for our ROM on that day. Don’t you think he did a good job on that. I am delighted to see those photos! I mean I could actually DIY my own wedding photoshoot!
The only thing I do not know is the trouble to source for a proper and decent wedding dress, and groom’s attire for him, and the make-up and hairstyling on that day. Hmmm, but as I see, it’s not a big deal , and I am willing to go miles to source for the right attire , knowing that i can save on such a hefty amount.
Anyway, I have signed up, and there is no need to mourn at it. (But it’s still important as part of reflection ). And the main reason I penned (keyboarded) this down is to share my experience to all the newly wed or couples who plan to get marry soon. Watch below to a few of my advice
Plan your budget wisely
Plan your budget as details as you can picture it. For instance, where to have photshoot? WIthin selangor, negeri sembilan area or Sepang , Kuala Selangor or Taman Perdana? Or just inside studio? or oversea?
Then how many attire you need?
MOst of them do not include Ampoule that can secure the bride’s make up throughout the day.
Make sure everything is written clearly on the receipt, like 5 lace dress, 3 designer dresses. Depend on the bridal shop, for my case, lace dress would need to top up money cause need to take care during the laundry.
If you like to have props, what is the theme you want? You want to rent the props or DIY?
I’ve heard a story about a man took up loan to have his wife dreamy wedding, and 10 years past, they are still paying for the marriage loan. What’s your opinion on this? No one should ever borrow loan just to celebrate marriage. We can still delay our reception to save up money what.
2. Set a budget for your marriage.
Do not ever go overboard if your budget. Then in this way, even when you visit a wedding fair, even when you got so hype up, even when every booth is basically offering you FREE accessories, FREE ADD-ONs and so on, you won’t be blind with multiple choices available but instead go for what you’re looking for.
3. Do not sign up during your first visit to the wedding fair.
There are mostly 3 or 4 wedding fair in a year. The purpose of the visit is to get the direction/ rough cost of your photoshoot, reception, location and many2 more. Then go home and think carefully, if what you really want exceed your budget, how you are you going to offset it? Postpone, or opt of the cheaper package?
4. Never ever pay lump sum until you are at the end of the servicing point.
It’s a rule of thumb. Nevertheless, I still wish to highlight it here. Just because you like the marketing people/sales lady who pursuit you, promising you whatever you need, but you might not know it is the other people who service you in the studio. You might ended up feeling so unfair because of the service given. (Though every details our package has been clearly stated in our receipt, but still do not ever pay lump sum especially when your will have your photoshoot in 3-6 more months).
In the case if you really not happy with the service given, you can still choose not to pay them in full amount when it really doesn’t justify what it was as mentioned in the packaged signed.
and I think the reason when marketing personnel asking for lump sum , they can get higher commission too.
Having to said this , I still love the sales lady who lured us to sign up , She is too experienced to know what we really want. She is pushy at the core, but she really know how to sweet mouth and attempt to our needs. I do not hate her or what, I would say we are rather impulsive before spending what is needed. What to do, I only got married once in a lifetime, LOL
Haiz…so lesson learnt, never ever got so hyped up even it’s your wedding. Stick strictly onto your budget! In my case, I know I could just DIY for myself. Anyway, you can visit my ROM photoshoot here. and see how I DIY my bridal bouquet here.
9.15am – Reached Thean Hou Temple (It was normal working weekday, so took 1.5h to reach. Jam in notorious Federal Highway, so)
9.15am – 9.30am – Took as much photos as we can, before moving to the registration.
9.45am – WS’s family reached. Waiting for our turn.
10.00am – Entered registration room to have trial signing.
10.05 am – Entered the formal ROM room to the real ROM ceremony with our Registrar inside
So the pair of the couple went to Thean Hou Temple earlier to take photos first. It’s so funny to see that we ourselves dress is a very….heavy..overdress way, and drove ourselves.
FInally, here we reached Thean Hou Temple, the temple with ROM ceremony conducted in Old Klang Road (Somewhere near KL sentral and Kuen Cheng High School)
Can you guess what’s the story behind this pic? The butterfly in our stomachs! Anticipate for it… LOL (Actually not very nervous also lar, busy scouting places to take photo, posing for photos than thinking about ROM)
Credit to the photographer , my younger bro for doing quite a decent job at taking a decent photos. that’s the feel I want! You may find him HERE too.
Like I am taking advertising ads for Thean Hou Temple… I think we walk to fast my bro can’t focus on us.
So off we went to the registration.
and a mandatory photo here. with our family members too!
okay, then was called to enter the registration room
Obviously, I am the daughter of my father here. We were so photo-sensitive!
My dad signed carefully with prudent.
Going to have our ROM started soon!
Thank you to my dad and my father in law having witnessing our ROM. The VIP in my life.
8 years and today is the day we realising our vow …for now and forever. and I have your surname on my name!
Newly wed / Mandatory tourist pose
So here’s how I got the profile pic.
新娘视角 VS 新郎视角
Now you know why I chose Thean Hou Temple. Cause every corner of it is just so photo-worthy.
Photographer: Bride’s brother
Camera: Sony Nex F3
Groom’s vest: Precious wedding
Bride’s dress: Precious wedding
Bride’s headband & earrings : Precious wedding
Treat me like princess every single day, can ar?
Not sure if this happen to you. Even after the ROM , for 2 or 3 weeks, I still can’t believe that we are officially, legally husband and wife….up until this point….I finally slowly digest the fact that it happened. Even when I look at the rings on my fingers , it still feels very surreal. (Have this ever happened to any newly wed there? )
(OKay la, I don’t want to talk too much about my personal things here. )
So to all the people who reading this entry, no matter you are single, attached or married. Never stop pursuing your dream. For me, this holy thing is one of the list in my priority.
It’s okay to be single.
It’s okay to get attached.
It’s okay to get married.
It’s just your matter of choice.
In the end of the day, you will love whatever you do.
2. Not my arm makeup challenge with my boyfriend. I find this is quite interesting. Because it manage to test the level of his tolerance. I mean he quite sayang me at the time when I am down. But this video is fun, and wish to do it!
3. Prewedding photoshoot behind the scene video.
4. Invitation video
The URL link for the invitation video will be digitalise on our invitation card. It is only once in alife time , and a must to document them!
Outdoor Natural: Perhaps Jungle in FRIM, Shah Alam OR Cameron Highland with those colourful flowers OR Ipoh Kinta Bridge
I don’t feel the need to go oversea, but my photos must have been very very nice terms of aesthetics, where the background will match out attire too.
Bring my own props for visual enhancement.
There could have be 2 or more sets of idea
Free, and Candid, Demure, Subtle (Perhaps at beach, windly, fish village,going back to retro decades)
For some shooting, I want to wear sneaker, Converse Sneaker, or Jeffry Campbell type with the white bridal dress.
Above: The Free and Candid that I like
6. British vintage Romantic style, not the Victorian style, but something like the picture below. Preferably take the Those Ipoh British style mansion or Penang also can.
7. Omg, and before I have planned any theme for the photoshoot, I already have the idea of where to shoot my pre-wedding photoshoot. It would be Bangkok!!! Seriously Bangkok has a lot of tourist attractions with nice backdrop to the extend it makes your photo so so pretty!
Swiss Sheep Farm (wanna take photo with Alpaca!! and buy an alphaca plush toy there)
& Perhaps Cicada Market if we have spare time
Whatever is it, Beach is a COMPULSORY!!
P/s: I have this feeling, I would just buy 1 set either custom made , or ready dinner gown during my photoshooting trip in Bangkok, no why, just feeling. My evening gown for the wedding banquet would be just a an aesthetically elegant, but easy for movement one. Hence it w ould be like a maxi dress, perhaps with extra ornament on it only.
1.Not sure how is the photobooth corner theme will look like, but some of the props are real material like the things that he DIY for me. like
the christmas tree star is he fold them one by one and gave me =D
2. And every guest can play with the print out instagram pic with certain hashtag
3. For the photo printing out devices, I have 2 plan in my mind now. The first one is using your own cell phone to snap pic, then upload to instagram , with the alocated #hastag so that the printer can print it out automatically. (1 shoots, 2 copies)
The second method would be using photobooth camera, but this idea is less sensible, as it might grab the attraction of the guest on playing it. Also, I have no idea where to place the photobooth camera. I have just viewed how others play with photobooth, it seems like it’s a brunch of people gather at the gigantic camera to shoot. ~~ hmm~~
4. At this point, guests might have trouble on where to keep those fragile small size print out photos, hence there is a special photo frame on the wedding invitation card that serve as this purposes. (Meaning, I have to decided the size of photos printed out before work on the size of wedding card invitation. )
5 Wedding invitation card
a.I would either use it or do not use it. Hmmm, coz I feel that is a waste to always design the card so pretty, and in the end, people get rid of the card by just to recycle it. Or maybe, I will use a digital way or a namecard style invitation card to invite the guest.
b.If there is an invitation card, I want both our face on the card!
Because I am a Buddhist, I don’t think I will carry out like a Christian wedding where the father of the bride bring his daughter down the aisle, i wanna to have this during the banquet!
Then my father pass me to him during the halfway of the aisle, then both of us walk to the stage, and present our welcome and appreciation speech before we sit down.
WEDDING DRESS FOR BANQUET
for the wedding dress, it should be minimalist simple, elegant, but didn’t affect my movement, In fact if possible, I wish that I can wear sneaker on the day.
I have even think about the menu for the wedding banquet
Roasted BBQ Pork
The dessert will be the wedding cake that they seen previously.
Still thinking about dessert bar, never mind ,w ould leave it to think in the future.
I was thinking that maybe the dishes serve on the Bride and Bridgroom table could be a little bit different from the rest. One of the problem that I have seen is that, usually the Main table people are host, don’t have time to eat so much, as they need to serve and toss with the guest in the banquet. So the best idea is to have individual dish serve, instead of serving one dishes on the table, and need to take time to take also.
I want to have this Project C for my wedding cake in the future. I still don’t know which cake that I want. But I want it from them. Their cake is not only pretty on aethetic view, and delicious when you eat them.
Project C is famous for Toh Fu Cheesecake, should I get this for the cake cutting session? Neh~~ I will just discuss with them. Which would be few years later from now.
BTW, I just got this from Wikipedia, normally a Chinese Traditional Banquet would go on like this.
Typically, the banquet will include a speech from the parents, the best man, the maid of honor, and the guest speaker. There will be cake cutting, toasts, a tea ceremony, some games designed by the DJ, and dancing. The two tables at the center of the room are for the groom’s and bride’s families.
My plan is I will put the cake in the center of our wedding hall, Would prefer a 3 tier heart shape cake, right before the banquet start. When the guest coming, they could take photo of the cake, and we will have the cake to share with everyone after the cake cutting ceremony.
I don’t want a cake cutting is just a ceremony for the sake of ceremony, it should be a joyous moment, and everyone get to taste a piece of cake which they keep taking photo just now.
Perhaps I can get a sponsor for this? =D =D
Alright, I just blurt out what is on my mind now.
ALso, I found this articel is quite useful. 12 things to know before your wedding day.
I found this useful because she has pointed out things that I haven experience there fore will never cross my mind. It’s little small little details that will affect your emotion too. After all, you want to make sure everything is flawless on your Big Day.
Just want to share some gallery that I saw in my friend(Shu Yi)’s facebook album.
I feel like she is so talented! With minimum cost and budget, the outcome of the photos is actually gorgeous, fabulous.
Guess what? There is only she and her hubby, both of them are the people being shoot and photographers at the same time, this is too talented!!! She and her hubby has taken 3 days of from their 2 weeks honeymoon trip in Australia for the photoshoot. And they enjoy the company of each other. so sweet~~ =D
Shu Yi said the weather was cold while there were shooting. It’s almost like 10 degree celcius, and it feel like 3-4 degree celcius when the wind was blowing.
As she describe her experience, I feel like I want to do something like this. SOmething that is challenging, because it’s only 2 of you. And have to get the right angle. And the effort of going to and fro between the shooting point and tripod in the cold breezy weather.
And I like to do this kind of DIY photoshoot. I might not doing this kind of photoshoot in the future. But I likes their idea so much!! and definitely should find a platform to tell the world, hehe.
Both of them are photographic lover. I can tell that because I have seen the other photos that she uploaded on Facebook that is extraordinary special, in term of aesthetic, (maybe because she is gorgeous), and that feel.
The photo is awesome right! Shu Yi tell her intention to having prewedding photo shoot is based on the feel….THE FEEL at the instantaneous moment, which I can feel from seeing the photos. along with the nice caption.
I have a short conversation with Shu Yi over Facebook (thanks for convenience of ICT nowadays), her intention is not to mainly to take a nice photos but to create a memory to be remembered with THAT FEEL
You see the photos here very nice right?
Tips that I learn from Shu Yi
Buy a remote control to control the camera, so that you won’t need to going to and fro.
Do some in-depth research before hand, so that the quality of phots came out are good!
The angle to shoot (zoom in or zoom out)
The different type of background
Can prepare the props like fake flower, bowl tie, veil, ring…anything that you think could brighten up your photo =D
The posing. Of bride and bridegroom (with different type of dress, background)
Choose the theme that you want: Free and Easy/Candid/ Summer/Island/Romantic/Countryside/Beach/Dreamy/Princessy (This canbe achieved through the use of props too! )